How to Use Good Body Language

     Fixing body language can make a big difference when someone assess your personality. Good body language can show that you have the skills, the allure and positive mood. For example: if you often smile, you will feel happier. If you sit up straight, you will feel more energetic. If you slow down your movement (not in a hurry), you will feel calmer.
      Broadly speaking, body language consists of how you sit, how you stand, how you use your hands and feet, as well as what you do when talking to someone.
   
Below are some body language that you need to consider when talking to someone:
1. Do not cross your legs and arms.

You may have heard that cross your arms or legs may indicate that you are covered for you and the other person does not create a good relationship conversation. Always open the position of the hands and feet.

2. Make eye contact, but not looking at him.

By making eye contact on the other person you can make the relationship better conversation and you can see whether they're listening to you or not. But also not to look at him (continuous), because it will make the other person you become restless.
If you are not accustomed to making eye contact on the other person you are, indeed you will feel discomfort at first. But do it on and you'll get used to it someday.

3. Make the distance between your feet.
Gives the distance between the two legs (not sealed) both in standing and sitting indicate that you are quite confident and comfortable with your position.

4. Relaxed your shoulder.
When you feel tense, you will also feel the tension in your shoulders. Usually visible from the shoulders are slightly raised position and move forward. Try to loosen the tension by moving your shoulders and retrace back to back or leaning position.

5. Nod when the other person you're talking.
Nodding signifies that you are currently listening to. But that does not mean you nod excessive (continuous and fast) like a woodpecker :), because you will look like a made-up.

6. Do not bend over, sit up straight.

Bowing indicates that you are not passionate, and erect here means within the remit relaxed, not tense.




7. Lean, but not too much.
If you want to show that you are interested in what is conveyed by the other person you are, your body lean slightly toward him. But do not be too biased because you look like will ask something.
If you want to show that you are quite confident and relaxed, your body lean slightly backwards. But also do not be too biased, because you will look arrogant.

8. Smile and laugh.

cheerfully, do not be too serious. Relaxed, smile and even laugh when someone tells something funny. People will tend to listen to you if you are seen as a positive person. But do not be the first to laugh if you own that tells the hilarious story of her, because you will be impressed nervous and like asking for pity.
Smile when you meet someone, but they should not be smiling constantly as you will be deemed to save something behind your smile.

9. Keep your head position remain straight.
Do not look down when you talk to someone. You'll look like uncomfortable talking with the other party and also looks like someone who is not confident.

10. Do not rush.
It can apply to anything. For those of you who have a habit of going fast, occasionally try to slow down your street. In addition you will look more calm and confident, you also will feel your stress level is reduced.

11. Avoid movements that indicate that you are restless.

As touching your face, shaking your leg or tapping your fingers on the table quickly. Such movements indicate that you are nervous and can distract the other person or people who are talking to you.





12. effectively use your hands.

Instead you use your hands to things that can distract your interlocutors, as mentioned in point 11 above, you better use your hand to help explain what you say.



13. Lower the glass you drink.
Often we talk with someone holding a drinking glass in front of our chest. This attitude is somewhat less good because it will make the 'distance' that is quite far between you and your listener. Lower the position of the glass you drink, even if you have to hold it up in the near leg.

14. Do not stand too close.
In my article: How to Know Someone Being Lied, I had to review a little that people who change the position becomes too close to the interlocutor may indicate that he is hiding something or have a specific purpose. In addition, of course, will make his interlocutor becomes uncomfortable. Always keep a distance of 'privacy' between you and your listener.

15. Reflecting.
In the books on sale, I often find on the terms of this mirror. In essence, when two people are connected and having a positive conversation, they are not aware of each mirror each other. In a sense you will be a little mimic your body language speaker, and vice versa.
You can also perform proactive glass technique (consciously) to further improve the quality of your relationship and your interlocutors. For example, if the other person you are slightly leaned forward, you can also lean your body forward. If the other person you put a hand on the table, you can also do the same. Still keep in mind, do not do the mock movement with a very short lag time and almost all movements imitated. The other person you will see an oddity and looks like a circus. :)

16. Always keep your attitude.
What do you feel will be channeled through body language and can be a big difference to the quality of your relationship and your interlocutors. Instead, keep a positive attitude, open and relaxed.
Keep in mind that you can change the language of the body is not good, of course, as long as you understand that in order to create a new habit requires a process. Do not also try to do everything at once because it will make you confused and tired.
Focus only on 2-3 body language of your priorities and improve continuously for 3-4 weeks. After that time you will create a new habit. Then you can continue again for the next 2-3 body language.

sumber: Gordon R.Wainwright Book